COUPLES THERAPY
From Conflict & Withdrawal to Secure Connection
I help you identify the repetitive loops and unspoken injuries eroding your partnership — and transform reactive patterns into something more secure, attuned, and genuinely close.
Proactive Relational Growth Whether you're preparing for marriage or stepping into parenthood together, we work to strengthen your foundation.
Active Coaching & Repair I take a direct, feedback-oriented role in our work — helping each partner heal their own wounds with the other present. It's a rare and powerful space for accountability, deep repair, and the kind of clarity that changes how you move through conflict together.
Designing Your Relational Legacy
Your partnership is the blueprint your children will internalize — the template for how love feels, how conflict gets repaired, and how safety is built. This is the work that echoes forward. Together we identify the ancestral patterns and inherited dynamics you've been unconsciously carrying, so you can make a conscious choice about what you pass on. Healing your relationship isn't just for you — it's one of the most profound gifts you can give the next generation.
Navigating High-Stakes Conflict & Shutdown
Every couple has a cycle — the argument that never quite resolves, the silence that stretches too long, the moment one of you shuts down and the other escalates. These patterns aren't character flaws. They're protective behaviors that once made sense and now block the intimacy you're both craving. We slow the cycle down, understand what's driving it beneath the surface, and build the regulation and repair skills to move through conflict without losing each other in it.
Foundation for Family Transitions
The seasons that stretch a relationship most — getting engaged, navigating fertility, expecting a baby, early postpartum, parenting young children — are are not meant to be navigated alone. I help you meet these transitions as a team rather than two people managing in parallel, transforming reactive cycles into a partnership grounded in emotional attunement, shared purpose, and genuine closeness.
WHAT BRINGS COUPLES IN
Feeling more like roommates than partners
The same fight on repeat with no resolution
One partner withdrawing, the other pursuing — and neither feeling heard
Rebuilding trust after betrayal or dishonesty
Intimacy & sexual connection — differing desire, mismatched needs, or a sex life that shifted after baby and hasn't found its way back
The invisible mental load falling unevenly on one partner
Money conversations that turn into something bigger than money
Differing parenting philosophies creating distance and resentment
In-law dynamics and the tension of competing loyalties
Navigating cultural, religious, or interfaith differences in values, rituals, and expectations
Preparing for a major life transition and wanting to do it consciously
Repairing and reconnecting after a season of pure survival mode
Your Investment
Initial Trial Session (50 min) $190 — Rather than a brief phone consultation, I offer a full 50-minute trial session as your first step. Couples work benefits from having enough time to actually show up together — to share what's bringing you in, ask questions, and get a sense of what it feels like to be in the room with me. A short call rarely captures that. At the end of our session, we can reflect together on whether working with me feels like the right fit.
Intake Session (110-minutes) $300 — A full intake evaluation allows time to map your history as individuals and as a couple, clarify your goals, and lay the foundation for the work ahead.
Weekly Therapy Sessions (75 min) $250 — Ongoing sessions are 75 minutes because the work is inherently more complex — we're holding two individual experiences and the relationship between them. The extra time means we're not rushing, and you're not leaving mid-process.
Couples therapy is typically a private-pay service. Insurance reimbursement requires a mental health diagnosis, which a couple often does not qualify for. In some cases, one or both partners may meet criteria for a reimbursable diagnosis — and if that diagnosis becomes a clinical focus of the couples work, insurance billing may be possible. This will be evaluated during your intake session. You're welcome to check your potential benefits below as a first step, though whether reimbursement is possible will depend on the diagnosis determined at intake.
What We Work Toward Together
Redesigning the Blueprint
Beneath the daily frustrations and recurring conflicts lives a deeper story — inherited patterns, old wounds, and adaptive strategies that once protected you and now quietly divide you. We identify them together, so you can consciously design something different for yourselves and the family you're building.
Repairing the Unspoken
The ruptures that linger longest are rarely about what was said — they're about what never got to be said at all. We go beyond communication strategies to the unmet needs and accumulated injuries underneath, creating a path from resentment and withdrawal back into genuine, secure connection.
Intimacy Beyond the Surface
Real intimacy — emotional and physical — can't be performed into existence. It grows in safety. We identify what's been blocking your connection and create the conditions for closeness that doesn't require either of you to shrink, perform, or settle.
Ready to Find Your Way Back to Each Other?
“Love is an action, a participatory emotion. Whether we are engaged in a process of self-love or of loving others we must move beyond the realm of feeling to actualize love. This is why it is useful to see love as a practice. When we act, we need not feel inadequate or powerless; we can trust that there are concrete steps to take on love’s path. We learn to communicate, to be still and listen to the needs of our hearts, and we learn to listen to others. We learn compassion by being willing to hear the pain, as well as the joy, of those we love. The path to love is not arduous or hidden, but we must choose to take the first step. If we do not know the way, there is always a loving spirit with an enlightened, open mind able to show us how to take the path that leads to the heart of love, the path that lets us return to love.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions